Ephesians 5:25-28 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing of water through the Word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, wihtout stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”
Marriage in the world today is a mess; and the only ones we have to blame are ourselves. We have stained this holy union, sactified by God Himself, into something more than a piece of paper that has no real meaning. Promises are made that ring empty when faced with the reality of living together as husband and wife, and the day-to-day grind of worldly stresses and tribulations wears the relationship down to a sliver of its former self.
Men, especially, have fallen far short of where they need to be as Godly husbands, living for Christ and being spiritual heads of the household. Church attendance by men has fallen off dramatically, while their wives and children continue to faithfully serve the Lord. Men are nowhere to be seen except in front of t.v. sets, grumbling about the latest football scores or demanding that their wives wait on them hand-and-foot with a fresh drink or sandwich waiting for them at a moment’s notice.
What can be done? Well, first off, to those men out there who are reading this (and who are acting this way), I say this:
“Follow God! Put Him first, then your wife second, your children third, your friends and other family afterwards…and then YOU can come somewhere far down on the list.”
Wow. This is definitely something that NO man likes to hear, regardless of how “macho” or “tough” they think they are. Men, by nature, think they are the rulers of the roost; the kings of the hill; etc. What they fail to understand is that God is the only true Ruler of us all, and that He alone can be that.
What men CAN do, though, is to submit to God, ask for forgiveness for being stupidly arrogant about their place in life…and then follow Him and do what He says in the Word unfailingly. And what God says is this: men should love their wives as Jesus Christ loves the Church. Plain and simple.
Remember what Jesus did for the Church? For us all? He gave up His life for us, and He did it without conditions! So, too, as husbands, should we love our wives. Even though there are times when we might not agree with them or we might not like their actions…well, didn’t Jesus go through the same thing with those who were around Him (including the disciples, btw)? And yet, Christ STILL looked past our faults and gave us His Love.
As a man, you can argue until your blue in the face…but that’s what God tells us to do. And we should do it. Without hesitation; without persuasion; and without arguing.
Our wives are a precious gift that we are blessed with; a helpmate to walk along the path of life with us, side-by-side, standing with us no matter what. Our wives should be our lovers, our best friends, our confidants, our sounding boards; etc.
And we, in turn, should be HER best friend, HER lover, HER confidant, HER sounding board, etc. We are NOT supposed to be her ruler; we are NOT supposed to treat her like a doormat and walk all over her; we are NOT supposed to lord over her with an iron fist…
Guys, are you getting it? Be a HUSBAND to them, like Christ is a husband to His bride, the Church. We sure don’t see our Lord going around thinking He’s all that; instead, we see Christ as a humble servant to others, always giving of Himself. That’s how WE as husbands are supposed to be to our wives.
So, guys…love your wives. Send her flowers; leave her love notes; call her in the middle of the day just to say, “I love you.” Show her you desire her like King Solomon did his beauty in the Song of Solomon (a great lesson for all of us men). Take her out to dinner and lavish her with respect, honor, and devotion. Listen to her if she just wants to talk (something I constantly need to work on, and I am getting better with God’s help). Most of all…as your helpmate, minister with her for Christ. It is a wonderful thing to have someone in your life that helps you to share Jesus Christ with others. That is one of the true blessings I have with Jeannie.
So gentlemen…suck it up and do what’s right. And be a Godly husband for your wives. You have nothing to lose…and a Godly marriage to gain.
Women…go on over to my wifey’s blog to learn how to be a Godly wife. 🙂